"Confinement" is a traditional custom that Chinese people have been circulating for a long time. It mostly refers to about one month after childbirth, allowing mothers to take good care of themselves during this period and bring their bodies back to their pre-pregnancy state. Many people in modern times choose to stay in a confinement center after childbirth, but some people also doubt it is really necessary to go there? I think it was a waste of money last month.

A couple quarreled over a discussion about whether to go to the confinement center after giving birth. The wife said that she was weak after giving birth and hoped to go to the middle of the month to take care of the child. She also had professional medical care that could help her 24-hour childcare. However, the husband said that she did not need to waste money to go to the middle of the month, so she asked her mother to cook a confinement meal. It would be better to save this money and use it for childbirth later.

Should pregnant women go to the confinement center after giving birth?

A netizen said on dcard that he is the eldest sister of his family. His younger brother and his sister-in-law recently quarreled over "will go to the confinement center after giving birth", which made the atmosphere at home not very good.

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said that he would waste money in the middle of the month. My mother could help her during confinement.

The eldest sister said that my brother and his wife were discussing recently about whether to go to the confinement center after giving birth. First of all, my brother believes that his wife does not need to go to the confinement center. Although they did not move out of their homes, because the two people's salary is not high and their savings are limited, my younger brother believes that the cost of the confinement center is actually too expensive, so he can save this money and use it to decorate a baby room, buy milk powder, diapers, etc. In addition, he felt that it was enough to take care of confinement at home because my mother was very good at growing up the kitchen (formerly a nutritionist), and she was also happy to help his wife with confinement and running errands to buy things. In terms of fees, the mother said that she only had to pay for the ingredients and did not need to pay more for the others.

The wife hopes to get good rest in the confinement center

Relatively, his wife has the opposite opinion. She thought that after giving birth, she would be very weak and did not want to take care of her baby in pain and fatigue. She said she wanted to get good rest in the confinement center and believed that both parties should share the fees of the confinement center together, and it is acceptable to pay with deposits. She also thought that it seemed like she was marrying a bad person without confinement in the confinement center, and her fate was very sad. If she had been ten months of hard work and pain, she would not be able to take a good rest in the confinement center, which made her feel very sleepy.

Due to the disagreement between these two views, they often quarrel at home. Sometimes when everyone eats together, they see the discomfort on their faces, which makes the whole family feel embarrassed. Because everyone knows that they are quarreling again, the atmosphere in the whole family has become very poor. Finally, my brother asked me for advice, but to be honest, I don’t want to interfere in dispute which side’s choice is better, so as not to get into trouble. After all, pregnancy and having children were the hard work his wife suffered, and the cost of the confinement center was also their savings.

The confinement center does not only have confinement meals, but also 24-hour children. Regarding "whether you should go to the confinement center after the child is finished?" Most netizens said that pregnant women must go to the middle of the month after giving birth, so they will never let their mother-in-law help them. "Didn't you find that your sister-in-law's request is different from the services your mother can provide? Your mother just said that she can cook confinement meals, but her sister-in-law's request is that she doesn't want to drag her painful and tired body and takes care of her baby." "I can't afford the money from the confinement center, so don't give birth, right?" "Sir is not OK. I have to outsource it to my mother during confinement. I just want to save money and free. I don't even say it's easy for him to have a baby." "I just want to be calm after giving birth and don't want to see your mother-in-law and go to the middle of the month. I must say it's such a waste of money and daughter-in-law relationship?" "I've finished producing it. It is true that you have to have a good rest and must separate the child from your mother. What will happen if you don’t have a confinement center, but the premise is that the boy must be reliable, "The husband is too reluctant to face. The woman is 10 months pregnant. If the money is AA, he should take the initiative to take care of the child for 10 months! Why is it the wife’s business to get pregnant and give birth to a child, and taking care of the child or the wife’s business? Then the woman is just fine, why get married?" "The sister-in-law is willing to give out the money and it’s good to go out in the middle of the month. The younger brother will give out this money alone, otherwise he will be just a sperm donor at all."

A netizen said that it is really important to have a confinement after giving birth. "It hurts your body if you don't do well after confinement. , I just didn't do my confinement period well, and I still had to treat the child after giving birth. The overall quality of the child changed. My physical strength was very poor, I was prone to illness, severe hair loss, gasping after pregnancy, and I was extremely afraid of the cold and cold. These were all the same. ", "There are some courses in the confinement center that can catch the novice father off guard, and someone can take good care of him. Baby, basically, it’s difficult for breastfeeding mothers to have a good rest. Usually, there are cooperative lactation teachers and nurses in the confinement center to help new mothers well at the first time. ", "Of course I have to go! After spending money to mid-month, nurses can treat children 24 hours a day, help me with the wounds, and the food is not delicious. I can complain, what’s wrong with the child I can ask. Just ask the above questions, who dares to do it directly to my mother-in-law."

Some netizens also share their experiences in confinement. "After the month of the month, I didn't want to see my parents-in-law at all. I taught a bunch of children all day long and felt uneasy! I sincerely suggest that I can really have a good rest when I go to the month of the month. When my parents-in-law came to the client, I refused to say that it was inconvenient to wear breasts in it. I was in a good mood with a clean ear. Only with a happy mother can I have a happy baby." "It's really hard to have a child, and it's not too painful to have a pain. After giving birth, I excrete evil, uterine contraction, and hurt my mouth. The whole body is I was not under my control. Although I had been 10 months old, I still wanted to cry. It was so tormenting!" "I gave birth to two babies. My mother-in-law wanted me to have confinement at home for the first baby. She spent money to find a confinement nanny to treat me and the child. However, because the confinement nanny was too thunderous, my husband, mother-in-law and sister-in-law couldn't stand it. In the end, we were all exhausted. So when it was my second baby, my mother-in-law decided to let me live for one month in the middle of the month."

6 ways to convince "confinement center"

If the nurse wants to make her husband agree to go to the confinement center for confinement, you can consider the following 6 methods:

1. Provide relevant information: collect relevant information about the confinement center, such as service content, professional caregivers, medical equipment, etc., and explain their benefits. With clear and clear information, my husband understands that the confinement center can provide better care and help moms recover faster.

2. Believe in health: Let your husband know that the child needs enough rest and care during the confinement period. If the husband pays attention to the health of his mother and baby, he should agree to go to the confinement center for confinement, because better medical care and care can be provided there.

3.Communicate with doctors: Try to explain the precautions during the confinement period and why it is safer to be in a confinement center than at home. This may make my husband more likely to accept because he knows it was suggested by the doctor.

4. Let your husband visit the confinement center: If you have the opportunity, you can take your husband to visit the confinement center, let him see the facilities and environment there, and how the caregivers take care of their parents and babies.

5. Ask for family support: Ask for support from mother-in-law, parents or other relatives. If someone can support your decision, your husband may be more accepting.

6.Consistency: Finally, if your husband still disagrees, or cannot afford the expenses of the confinement center, you can pay for it yourself to go to the confinement center. Or consider taking confinement at home, but you can consider asking someone else such as a nanny or confinement nanny to help you take care of it. This can at least reduce the burden of novice mothers.