In Ja Jingwen's new work "Fallfall", she plays a strong single mother. However, due to the double murder of the epidemic, work crisis and the rebellious period of her daughter, she collapsed silently without saying a word. When she was on the Youtube program of the science wife a few days ago, Ja Jingwen shared her mood when she was talking about this role, she was both a daughter and a mother.

I wonder how old are you, who is reading this article now? Maybe they are still drinking milk, or maybe it is the lovely period of Yaya learning, but seeing the children love their mother so wholeheartedly, have you ever imagined: Maybe they will one day enter a rebellious period and slowly become alienated from you? They are talking about you now wanting to escape and take a breath, but after puberty, they may be able to get back home and call calls are already a good deal. At this time, how can you, who dedicated most of your child to your child, take care of yourself?

The new work "Flowers", directed by Long Meng Hong, is not a horror film, but it actually films the deepest fear in all mothers' hearts.

The single mother's work played by Ja Jingwen, only work and family in life. After her ex-husband Qiwen (played by Li Liren) divorced her, she hardly cared about her ex-wife and daughter in emotional or economic ways. As a pillar of financial and emotional, she knew that she could not collapse, but the epidemic not only destroyed the world, but also destroyed her.

The company's salary cuts due to the COVID-19 pandemic have made people uneasy, and her housing loans and car loans have made her feel overwhelmed. She couldn't forget her ex-husband who had been divorced for three years, but she didn't love her ex-husband from another family.

She knocked on the door and asked her daughter to come out for a meal. The daughter said she was not hungry. Pinwen was angry: "Do you think she is staying in a hotel?"

She felt that her daughter wrote Bitch to herself with curry sauce and asked her daughter: "How did you talk to them (students) about your mother and daughter?" The epidemic has made the mother and daughter unable to talk well while living together, and it is so swaying that it is like being in jail.

Do you know that my mother collapsed without sound?

When the child was young, our self was swallowed by the identity of mother. When the child grows older, he has his own circle of friends, a career he pursues, and even his own emotional dependence and the next generation, where will he go next? Looking back, my youthful self was already gone.

Just like it is difficult for us to deal with our lives now, we often ignore it: our mothers are facing huge loss, their focus of life has disappeared, they are full of doubts about their existence, and they actually need help.

Pingwen in "The Waterfall" is that she is fond of her daughter, but she is even more fond of herself who gives wholeheartedly to her daughter and doesn't love herself.

She had a strange dream, and a high building without a guardrail appeared. A child was crawling around. Seeing that the child was about to fall, the mother hurriedly rushed forward, but the child was dead. On the contrary, my mother couldn't stop and fell down.

Everyone says that dreaming is an extension of subconscious mind. Pinwen, she loves her daughter deeply and even wants to die for her daughter, but she can't help but feel resentful that she wants to die for her child! It’s the child who doesn’t hear anything wrong!

The wrong relationship between complaints and love, coupled with the fear of losing control of the situation, became the last straw that crushed her, forcing her to think that abnormal symptoms broke out and there was a sense of illusion.

Fortunately, my daughter Xiao Jing grew up silently before she discovered it. She can actuarially manage household sales and make income and expenditure decisions, and she can even make decisions quickly, and finally have a new relationship with her affair with her father and her daughter, with her daughter's understanding and support.

Jia Jingwen: The child shouts "Mom", and there is a lot of thought in his ears that he is fantasizing

The movie "Flowers" makes a metaphor for the misconception of thought: it's like you stand behind a waterfall, the flowing water is bulging, but behind the waterfall, the world is not as peaceful as the sound of the water.

In fact, which mother has never thought she had illusions?

When Ja Jingwen was promoting the movie and was interviewed, she said, "Which mother doesn't collapse? Don't say that her thoughts are out of tune, her mother sometimes also perceives. For example, when I was sleeping, I often think that the child was calling me? That's a bit terrifying in the ears. Sometimes I really want to say to her child: Can you find a father? There is something called dad!"

She is in science In the conversation, my wife said: "The role of Pinwen has a deep influence on me. I think my mother is actually a combination of strength and fragility. Everyone often thinks that fragility cannot be placed on mothers, but I (when I played this role, I was) to put these two things together."

Ji Jingwen Suyan starred, writing the frost, hard work, grievance, stubbornness and injustice that she is a mother on her face.

Through her walking posture, you can see the weight of the mother's job pressing on her. Since having a child, it is like living with a blowjob, afraid that the child will fall, get lost, eat, and be less excited ……… I am very afraid that I will lose my job and will not be able to play the role of a perfect mother.

, and carrying such a huge pressure, once the pressure is lost, what you get is not as simple as resolving happiness. Ja Jingwen said: "When the mother is a sacrifice and cater to her, she gives herself all to her family or her partner. After seeing this, the impact can be imagined very big." It took three years for the essay in the movie to know that she was having a problem. All these cumulative amounts are a little bit by bit.

What the mother wants is not the truth, she wants you to become her child

, and the mother's anxiety about existence becomes even greater after her daughter becomes a mother.

Ji Jingwen talked to the science lady about her relationship with her mother, "The relationship between me and my mother is very subtle, very puzzling and troublesome. Sometimes I think my mother is really worried too much! I think: 'Now I am also a mother, and I know everything you want to say!' I want to tell her the truth. But later I realized that what my mother wants is not the truth. She wants you to change to a child and told her: 'Mom , I get it! Mom, I heard ……'』』

For example, it is difficult to encounter different tutors in the next generation. The new generation of mothers always think that Ah Maternal tutoring is an old school, but as the movie says, "When you are with your mother, the most important thing is to understand. Don't always deny her. Standing from your mother's perspective, change the way you are with each other."

Jia Jingwen admitted that she is still learning about these new relationships between mother and daughter. She herself has only learned how to be sweet and sweet after having three children this year, and only then did she know how to turn back to calm her mother.

"In fact, my mother still cares about me: Have you ever been to the bathroom? In my mother's heart, we are eternal children. But at the same time, my mother has become a child. She needs a sense of existence, needs to go out to play, and needs to be comforted."

Just like Mom Ja sometimes can't help but joke with her daughter: "If you don't look for me, you'll have something to do when you look for me." Mom is always our best teammate, but Mom sometimes wants to be our friends and our travel companions.

So, when you care about your children, don't forget that we are also a daughter. Our mother has always been so strongly, but as she gets older, she is actually very fragile. Pay more attention to your mother!

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