In married life, sometimes the moment when a husband regrets getting married often comes from an unintentional word or action of his wife. Mariko Nida, a Japanese psychological counselor, pointed out in her book "God Husband User Manual" that certain habitual words and deeds of wives, which may seem considerate or trivial, will gradually alienate or even make her husband cold. The following is a compilation of "5 behaviors that make your husband no longer love you."

1. When my husband wants to help, he always says, "It doesn't matter, I'll do it myself."

This sentence seems considerate, but in fact, to the husband, it is like saying: "You can't do it as fast as me" and "I have to do it again if you make a mistake."

Housework and childcare are a way for the husband to express his love. When the wife refuses in the name of "foresight" or "consideration", she is actually denying this love. Even if your husband is clumsy, try to be tolerant and accept it, so that he has the opportunity to be needed.

2. "I'm sorry" becomes a mantra

As long as the husband says something, the wife will immediately apologize: "I'm sorry" or "Sorry". Such reactions often come from the mentality of "wanting to end the dispute as soon as possible".

This approach not only fails to respect your husband, but also fails to respect yourself. Avoiding facing problems will only make communication with each other more and more superficial. Only by learning to communicate honestly and face problems can we truly build trust.

3. Habitually ask "Are you okay?"

"Are you okay?" It sounds gentle, but in fact it is often the wife who asks to calm her anxiety. To a husband, "Are you okay?" sometimes feels like "I don't believe you can handle this."

When you really feel that your husband is emotionally disturbed, please ask instead: "What happened?" This will make him more willing to talk.

4. She wants to help her husband with everything by "thinking first"

If a wife always "prepares" and "arranges first" for her husband, it will make her husband feel controlled or monitored. "I just want to help" may seem considerate to the wife, but may be stressful to the husband.

Try to let go and let him act in his own way, even if it is less efficient, it is a sign of respect and trust.

5. Always ask, "Are you angry?"

When the husband seems to be in a bad mood and taciturn, the wife often rushes to ask: "Are you angry?" But in fact, everyone has emotional ups and downs, and the husband's "bad mood" does not necessarily require the wife to repair it.

It is the husband's own responsibility to adjust his mood. His wife does not need to worry about it, nor does she need to adjust his mood for him. Keeping a moderate distance can actually reduce friction.

Don't live in "anxiety about being loved"

The above five words and deeds may seem trivial, but they all come from the perspective of others who "want to be loved" and "want not to be disliked." Mariko Nidada emphasizes: "You must first learn to love yourself before you can be loved by others." When the wife no longer focuses on catering, but gets along with self-respect and equality, the relationship between husband and wife will return to a more comfortable and healthier track.