Exploration of original families has been discussed in recent years, but it is also a learning question to understand the impact of original families on themselves and how to go next. Psychologist Cai Yuerong of Xinxu Psychology Institute pointed out the impact of the original family and taught everyone how to explore and what to do next.

Why does the original family affect such a great impact? Psychologist: It can be said to be "basic setting".

The basic setting of original families is like humans: Cai Yuerong psychologist pointed out that the impact of original families on people is often greater than other factors. The main reason is that this is when people first come into contact with the environment where the world is located, and the time is often the longest, and the adaptability of the brain will receive knowledge from the outside world. As age grows, time is cultivated and adaptable gradually decreases, the various moral concepts and value concepts absorbed from here will also become increasingly formed and fixed. Therefore, it can be said that they are the basic setting of people. In this way, they will also understand the entire world according to this, further think and act, and lead to events and results.

also has something to do with a sense of security and a sense of perception? In addition, the original family is also related to a sense of security and sense of origin. Whether it is really a visual security, it may look for the same sense of security or lack of security outward because of the impact. Because family members only have one in their lifetime, they represent different meanings from others.

Example: Do not believe in the possible reasons behind the relationship? It seems that many people do not believe in love and do not talk about feelings, but they cannot help but hope to have another companion who knows and cherishes each other. This situation is often seen from family discord, parents' separation, etc., which in turn affects the understanding of feelings. Although I like the sense of security of marriage when I grew up, my relationship was not smooth due to various factors such as insufficient experience. Even if it is different events, even if I have clearly seen a good life of a harmonious couple, I still believe that a beautiful family relationship does not exist, or that it is impossible for me to happen.

Example: Various common concepts. Other situations also include the impact of various value views on themselves, such as thinking that boys should fully develop the concept of raising their parents' responsibilities, or dishwashing teachers are women's responsibilities. Some people will pass on domestic violence incidents from generation to generation, and there may be further reverse cases of maintaining family protection. Regardless of the mistake, it affects the rest of your life.

"Life is so difficult" comes from the original family? How to explore? 3 steps to find out the reason behind it!  

It is not necessarily easy to find: psychologist Cai Yuerong said that exploring the influence of original families is not necessarily easy to find, and some can be found quickly. For example, when communicating with people, you may find that there is not only one operating mode. However, if it is a creator or a bigger impact, it may have to be pulled.

3 steps to find out the impact of the original family: In general, it is recommended that you first observe what is currently struggling, and the next step is to analyze what the biggest impact of this matter on you is. Next, you can recall where it may come from the original family, and think about the importance and correlation of confirming this matter.

Don't want to face it? What's the reason behind it? On the other hand, exploring the original family sometimes makes people unable to face it, especially when new perspectives can be referenced, whether there will be a situation of rejection and unacceptable situation. This situation may be due to the influence brought by the original family, making oneself unwilling to accept or face something. For example, it is impossible to communicate effectively with people, it is unable to associate with people, it is unable to face authority, it is unable to accept the past, etc.

Example: Does not believe in love may be due to expectations? From the example of the above inability to believe in love, if you feel troubled, it may mean that you are actually expecting. If you further explore it, you may find that it is lack of love and expectation, and exploring towards the original family may find that it is lack of family discord. When some people may not accept this, they can pay attention to whether there are any reasons that will make them avoid, such as not being able to let go of the reasons that may not be able to leave their parents' separation.

Found the influence of the original family, and then what?

Common treatment methods: There is no way, it is harmful. I found the impact of my original family on myself, and then what? Many people are finding the influence of their original family on themselves. The test picture is in their hearts and they are in common with them. The common idea is "It's all harmful to the original family." "There is no way, this is my original family." etc. This is indeed a way of thinking about coexistence.

The face-to-face method that can be chosen: Cai Yuerong psychologist said that after understanding the impact of the original family on oneself, you can also first clarify whether it will have negative impact on oneself. If not, it will be okay to maintain it; if it will, or even affect or block yourself, you can consider whether to move forward, make changes, and develop in the direction you see and like to continue.

You can make various evaluations and choose the appropriate path: Next, you can evaluate whether you really need to move forward, whether you can move forward now, whether you should stay in place and wait for the time, or move forward slowly a little bit, without having to force yourself too much. You can also think about ways to move forward accurately to avoid thinking too much after discovering the key to the problem. If you want to be in place at once, it will be even more frustrating.

It is not necessarily easy to change the impact of native family, because it is like changing the basic settings. At the same time, it should also be noted that changing the impact of the original family can also be said to change one's own basic settings, that is, the commonly heard "step out of the comfortable circle". After all, we have been walking in the previous way, and it is naturally not easy to use different methods in the future, so there is often a situation of "not willing to change the situation". This stage requires mental preparation, and the next path may be difficult.

made a change, but failed? No, it may also be "still on the road". You can also pay attention to the process. You may feel frustrated, but you may not have the failure as you imagined. It may be that you have not experienced it or are still building it, but you are not feeling the sweetness, but in fact you are already moving forward. You can give more opportunities to the things you have built, and don’t rush to make a decision.

Example: How can a broken heart be re-established? If you look at the example of not believing in love, you can first understand the importance of feelings to yourself. If you are very comfortable, then it doesn’t matter if you don’t talk about feelings. If you still hope that someone can spend your life together, you can try to make changes, such as starting to meet new friends. However, from not believing in people to believing in people, you will naturally get stumbled. If you are not good at the process, you may be deceived. If you are too prepared, you will have many setbacks. You will need to adjust continuously and give yourself space for failure. You will understand that every event is an independent event and avoid generalization from a single point. If you really feel frustrated, you can also think about whether it is being established or just needs a little adjustment.

After understanding your life difficulties, you can try to calculate where the possible key reasons come from the original family, and to evaluate whether changes are needed, as well as elastic adjustment factors, which will help make life move in the direction you expect.

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