A well-known website recently published an article declaring that the child was difficult to discipline. A certain punishment was bruised and was reported to the Social Bureau by the school's guidance room. The social worker visited the door, which made her feel moved. "When I was angry when my father was angry, I drove me out of the house at night. I only dared to squat at the door without saying a word and wait for my father to calm down before going home. When I grew up, I fell into a slap in the little boy who was hit and wanted to get rid of it." This caused many netizens to share the same song, "Who cares about my mother's mental health?" Some people also left messages saying "When I was a child, I had to look at my mother's face. Now when I was a mother, I had to look at my child's face. Is this a new type of dry cleavage?"

The Internet admitted that social workers' entry was the "most humiliating experience in this life". After visiting the family, the child "seemed to catch his mother's soft ribs" and changed the book. She could only do more patience to "not being deceived by the law." She also discussed with the instructor many times, trying to find out the real reasons and ways behind the sequence behavior. She also emphasized that she was not about publishing a document or rationalizing atrocities, but just wanted to express her mood and be wary of not committing it again.

"A family It is not easy for bloggers to admit their imperfections in front of the public. They should give her affirmation and similarity. This is also a friendly and educational atmosphere that Taiwan society lacks. "Li Hongwen, director of the Policy Center of Fuli Alliance, said that parents will be at a loss or make mistakes, but there are many teaching demons or righteous demons in society. They will look at parents who roll their eyes or pay excessive attention to them, and often put all their responsibilities on their mothers. If the children are not good, they think they are mothers' mistakes. This unfriendly social atmosphere is definitely a major reason for the decline in Taiwan's fertility rate for seven years.

Li Hongwen said that loving children is universal value, and social awareness is improving, but there is no way to go fast. According to the 2014 and 2022 survey by the League, the proportion of parents who believe that physical punishment is a necessary means has dropped from 40% to 30%, and the proportion of whom "whether it is light, physical punishment is violence" has increased from 46% to 73%. There are 60 countries around the world that prohibit physical punishment. Japan has just banned domestic punishment. South Korea also intends to amend the law. In opposing Taiwan, the Civil Law also has a clause saying "Parents have the right to quash children", so it can only protect children through other means such as reports and rights agreements. Judging from the messages posted on the Internet this time, South Korea has not prepared to amend the law in Taiwan.

In addition to law, how can a generation that has been beaten up in authority prevent violence from spreading from generation to generation? Lin Shangneng, a counselor who has been a senior high school professional teacher for 8 years, said that self-consciousness is important. If you can have a self-consciousness about your original family experience, you will realize that this experience has an impact on your partner or family relationship, and you will find that you are using the pain you have suffered in the past to respond to your children. This will change the opportunity. Ask for professional assistance from psychologists or school coaches, read related books, and participate in growth groups. These actions help you see the needs of parents and children.

Li Hongwen said that he had heard from a child that said, "You adults are very strange. You have obviously been a child, why do you forget how you feel when you are a child?" This is a very critical problem, because the physical and mental pain you suffer at the time is usually something that people don't want to respond, but they won't forget. This is also why up to 98% of parents will fall into a vicious cycle like "regret, want to reconcile, and commit recurrence" after punishing their children.

To end the vicious cycle and no longer accumulate toxicity, parents must practice stomping on cars in rage and learn other "effective methods of zero violence". The Fuli Alliance has a mother call-in teaching and nursing line (0800-532-880 I want to help you), and there is also a wealth of information on the "Teaching May 43" webpage (https://orange.children.org.tw/news). Parents are welcome to make more use of it.